Good morning beautiful lovers of life
Today I will address a topic that we all at one point in our life may have had to deal with.
In recent times I have listened to many bring up this topic and it felt like its a topic that needs some light shed in how to work through the process of over coming the shadow side of it.
I have also dealt with betrayals not as a victim, as a passage of growth.
Betrayal isn’t just in relationships of the romantic nature. Betrayals have many facets and are very tough to overcome without the right tools.
Dealing with feelings of betrayal can be quite challenging, and it’s natural to feel hurt and upset. But at the same time it can be a trajectory that empowers us into a new paradigm where we can elevate our frequency and understand ourselves and our life paths with a mature outlook.
Here are some steps you can take to help one process and cope with the emotions that may arise during the healing.
Allow Yourself to Feel
It’s essential to acknowledge and accept your emotions. Vulnerability is strength. Don’t be fooled. Don’t try to suppress or ignore your feelings, as that can lead to more significant problems later on. Allow yourself to experience the pain and disappointment fully.
Talk About It
Find someone you trust and feel comfortable talking to another such as a friend, family member, or even a therapist. Expressing your feelings and thoughts can be therapeutic and help you gain perspective. If you don’t want to talk to anyone journal your feelings and become accountable for the emotions arising.
Reflect on the Situation
Take some time to reflect on what happened and why it hurt you. Understand that betrayal says more about the person who betrayed you than it does about you. We may go into victimise and blame ourselves but in truth it’s never that there is a fault in us. It’s maturity and knowing oneself enough that enables us to rise above self blame. Reflect honestly your participation, the insights you ignored and where you need to bring attention to yourself more importantly. Never blame yourself for the actions of another.
If you feel that being around your friend and the person they betrayed you with is too painful, consider setting some boundaries. You don’t have to force yourself into situations that make you uncomfortable. You call the shots. Go no contact or not it’s up to you. Be sure that the boundaries you make are with yourself too so if you sense red flags in future you don’t put your head in the sand.
Focus on Self-Care
Engage in activities that bring you joy and make you feel good about yourself. Take care of your physical and emotional well-being. There are plenty of activities to join in on, start a course, join a dance class, find a vision quest retreat to grow through such as this in Egypt https://facebook.com/events/s/vision-quest-align-to-your-abu/1535936013824339/
Forgiveness is a personal decision, and it may not be something you’re ready for or even want to do right now. But consider that forgiving someone doesn’t mean condoning their actions; it’s about releasing yourself from the burden of carrying the resentment.
Meet New People
Sometimes, forming new connections with others can help you move past the pain of betrayal. Join clubs, organizations, or events that interest you, and you might meet like-minded people who become new friends or other fun and relaxing activities such as this https://facebook.com/events/s/cacao-sound-symphonies-by-the-/1339029610384698/
Remember that healing takes time. Be patient with yourself and allow yourself the space needed to recover emotionally.
Try not to compare your current friendships or relationships with past ones. Each relationship, friendship or encounter is unique, and people can change over time.
Learn and Grow
Use this experience as an opportunity for personal growth. Understand what you can learn from it and how you can protect yourself better in the future.
Remember that everyone copes with betrayal differently, so go at your own pace.
If you are going through such a trajectory presently, and wish to try a spiritual passage feel free to connect with me for clarity, guidance and support
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Wishing you all a blissful week ahead